A Voyage of the Heart

The Royal ‘WE’

It is easy to fall into a routine when we are comfortable in a relationship.

I think that is part of the ‘beauty’ of a long term relationship.

We already know what to expect, how the chores are divided up, who is in charge of the garbage and who takes care of the laundry. But, after a while, resentment can set in. Someone else can be perceived to have a ‘better deal’ or your work schedule no longer coordinates with the laundry or garbage pickup.

The unity of ‘we’ can transform from a separate ‘you’ and ‘I’.  We could blame our sub-conscious while throwing accusations or shaming another person for our trauma or problems. Phrases like these:

• “I’m busy tonight AND I have to shop for groceries.”
• “Why did you buy this bug spray? You know it is poison!”
• “It is your turn to take out the garbage.”
• ” Where did you put the ________.

If we adapt our vocabulary just a bit, we can still maintain control in a harmonious way, without blame or disrespect. Turn the issue into a statement rather than an accusation or a dictatorship. (Also known to remind about the chores; husband management.) Try using the ‘Royal WE’ in these situations to diffuse the issues.

• “We need to remember to take the garbage out this evening.”
• “We are both busy tonight, but we need to shop for groceries.”
• “Oh dear, we bought the wrong bug spray. I think this one is poisonous!”
• Can we make a new rule? Let’s try to __________.

Change these words to re-work one of your own scenarios.

You’ll find that altering your vocabulary to include the ‘Royal WE’ can be a great peace keeper.

(…for the whole family!)

Download the PDF Relationships Royal WE

P.S. Page taken from the Booklet: Feng Shui for Solid Relationships!